Having a Friend With Benefits

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As desperate as I am to have sex with someone, I sometime considered asking one of my girl friends if they wouldn’t mind having a little sex with me. I obviously never gain the courage to do something so outrageous, but I do always wonder what they would say.

I didn't even ask yet?

I always heard of friends with benefits, but I’ve never seen it for myself. I dont know anyone who just have a friend that they sometime fuck. I know I wish I had a friend such as that, but sadly, I don’t. How does one even get a friend with benefits? Just go up to your friend and say “Hey buddy. I was kind of bored and was wondering would you like to have sex?” Wouldn’t the girl just slap you, think you’re calling her a slut, or just stop being your friend? Is having a sex friend like some kind of random event from a video game?

Okay. I get it!

But if you somehow get a friend with benefits, then you run into the problem of someone getting too attached. I wanted to just fuck you, but now you’re getting feelings. That shit doesn't work for a playa like me. If you can’t keep the relationship to just friends who have sex, then you’re pretty much fucked. But how many people really can have sex with someone and not grow some kind of connection with them. Maybe having friends with benefits creates its own mess of problems to deal with, but I still want one!

Okay, maybe I don't want a friend with benfits.

Have you ever had a friend with benefits? Would you ever ask your friend if they’ll like to have sex with you? What would you do if they started catching feelings? Tell us in the comments.

Anti-Naruto 4 years ago

Easy answer: Yes.

People seem to fall for the same trap repeatedly; friends with benefits are that 'friends'. Trying to get anything emotional out of such a relationship leads to problems.

If you frequently eat at a restaurant and interact with the same staff every day, are said staff obligated to attend your wedding just because you're a regular customer? No. The same principle applies here.

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jupmod 4 years ago

Thinking about it, I do not think the 'friends with benefits' is possible. Oh, I'm sure there are people out there who can make it work, yet that requires not getting emotionally attach, and we humans are very emotional beings. The only people I can think that can have sex without any emotional attachments are porn actors. Most people though would want to have a relationship before sex.

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Washi-Washi 4 years ago

See, from personal experience, they never catch feelings, change your friendship into a "I'll call you when I wanna fuck that's all this is" :/

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Anon - anon 4 years ago

Honestly I'd go "no" both for the reason why it will go wrong, and i don't believe in casual sex(not that i've ever had sex). I think that's the issue with people today. They are too detached. I mean i feel i might as well use my hand if there's not connection in the sex. As a sex friend is
Also to be a player, don't you need to have sex regularly which by the sound of it you don't?

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Anon - idgaf 4 years ago

my friend had a fwb. although its more accurate to say she was just a whore. he would occasionally drive her places cause she didn't have a car and she would have sex with him in return

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Anon - ThatGuyOverThere 4 years ago

To me, sex is either you're in a relationship. Or things are going well between you, and it will become a relationship.

I've seen an FWB situation happen, before though. The guy in question was a very lonely attention seeker, and the woman in question was a party girl. The two would get drunk and go down on each other. Then like nothing happened/w the group. I always found that situation weird.

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Anon - Yozora 4 years ago

I have two FWB and a girlfriend. She does know about the relationship of mine and doesn’t care as long as I’m faithful to her. (Which I am since we’re getting married next year). She want to have a 3 some but the other girls aren’t down for that. It’s nice with a side of some guilt sometimes for me. Depends on situation.

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Anon - Anon 4 years ago

I personally don’t have any emotional attachment to sex. Even with my girlfriend, sex is purely for pleasure. I only really get emotional responses from hugging, touching hair, and talking. If I wasn’t so self-conscious I’d gladly be a lesbian porn star. So yeah, I love me some friends with benefits, and I doubt I’ll get attached.

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hmudyd25 4 years ago

your kung fu is weak. the thing about having friends with benefits is have FRIENDS with benefits. going back to the same one every other day is DEFINITELY going to help with catching feelings. get friendS and talk it over with them. you can be super science-y and say "my libido is super high" or you can be kinda predatory and be like "I think you're hot/id hit" when she's sad about being single.

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Ellie-chan 4 years ago

Ive had one only because we both had feelings for each other but they went to college far away and didnt want to be in a long distance relationship. Since we're from the same city and went to school together through middle and high school, when they came home for breaks like winter break or the summer we would basically act like we were dating and have sex while insisting that we werent dating

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