I know, incel question right? But I begin thinking deeper about this concept after watching the second episode of Yesterday wo Utatte, or English title,  Sing "Yesterday" for Me.

Now of course you can be friends with someone of the oppisite sex, but there’s usually reasons that makes it easier to be friends with them. At this point in my life, I don’t have many IRL female friends, most of the friends I still know today are guys. But online, I have plenty of male and female friends. So, what are some things that would make it hard for you to be friends with a girl?

Well, the simplest thing that comes to mind is attraction. And I’m not just talking about physical attraction. I’m talking about both physical and mental attraction. If you’re not attracted to her, or if her personality is just average, then it’ll be totally easy being friends with her. But someone that you find attractive physically and their personality is on point, now that would be hard as hell to hold yourself back from wanting to be in a relationship with them. If you start gaining feelings for them, you’ll start getting jealous everytime they talk or interact with another guy. You’ll start thinking that everytime you guys talk, it brings you guys that much closer to an actual relationship. But you never pull the trigger. Why? Well maybe because you’re afraid of being rejected and losing someone you consider a friend.

This is my friend. I think she's cute and her personality is amazing. I plan on finally asking her out.

A girlfriend is just a female friend that you’re fucking. So turning your amazing female friend into your girlfriend sounds like a great idea. But you’re the one with these feelings. What if she doesn’t feel the same way about you? How do you react? How do you ignore your feelings and just be friends with her again? Everytime you guys hang out, you’ll just be reminded of why you fell for her in the first place. It’ll be a cycle of mental torture everytime you spend time with her.

Damn it! See, I knew it was a bad idea to ask her out.

So yes, you can be friends with a girl. But depending on the situation, it can be hard to stay friends with her. I feel like most guys ask a girl out on a date before they even know the girl, to avoid this kind of painful situation. If I ask a girl out that I’ve known for like 5 days, if she says no to me, it’ll be kind of easy to stay in touch with her, or not talk to her again. It’s an easy way to avoid the awkward situation completely. But you have to ask the girl out first to even get to that point, which I’m still working on.

Now I'm depressed.

Do you think it’s hard to be friends with a girl? Have you ever asked your female friend to be your girlfriend? Have you watched Sing "Yesterday" for Me? Tell us in the comments.